Tag: Positive thinking

Life goes on..

by rosidabegum, posted in blog

It is a big dilemma that… life is short when you like it and life becomes very long when you do not enjoy it. Above all, we live life with joy and grief, with struggle and glory. It has many stages but we live so many times to die once. Just after birth, we start to play many roles. A script has written for you where you have to play many roles and you may not get the best performer award, you may not be the superstar but still, you can sparkle like a star.

It was difficult for me to stay away from what I love. Without reading and writing, I was just struggling with my hard days due to bad health conditions. But there was something that always realizes me pick up stones of my path and built a staircase to step upwards.

Although life is not a bed of roses. Hardships are there to make or to break you, but nobody is there without testing life’s hardship. In my hard time, I prefer to read and repeat these beautiful lines in life.

“Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.”- Paulo Coelho

“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.”- Og Mandino

” In tough times, everyone has to take their share of the pain.”-Theresa May

Life goes on…

Thanks for reading😊

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A day dedicated to women

by rosidabegum, posted in blog

Do women need a special day to celebrate? I always have this question in my mind. Every day should be women’s day, men’s day, humans’ day. But to celebrate it especially, of course, go with it. Adore all ladies in your life a little more on this day or thank them for their existence, which makes a difference in your life.

But where are the women today? Are they happy to say a “Happy women’s day”? It’s been a long way since women fighting with enormous foes to live with dignity. When they transform a house into a home, when giving birth to a life, when they prepare a meal, have they been saluted for all? Why they need a special treat when every second a woman dies for a dowry when every day a girl child is killed in a womb of a woman itself. The way a woman said goodbye on the bank of the river Sabarmati was one of the cruel truths of today’s society. Is she one and only, no,there are millions of women still waiting for a river Sabarmati to accept her.

Time has been changed. The brain is added with beauty. When she, the woman starts to believe in herself and opens her wings to fly high, stop dragging her to her odds.

She, the woman, not just a body. Respect her existence and let the mother sleep peacefully rather than haunt her with that worry of hiding her daughter from the hungry eyes which measure her statistics.

To be very honest, I am a woman and that’s my gender, not my specialty. When you have to celebrate women’s hood, establish equality, and celebrate humanity. Don’t ask a man for it, ask yourself when and how you feel as a woman that you should be treated equally by society. Before everything smashed between feminism and pseudo feminism I want to choose today and always humanism proudly.

But above all, if there is a little way to celebrate life and never miss the opportunity. Be happy to say Happy women’s day to the world where women still live with uncertainty.

Disclaimer

I love to spread positivity to make life beautiful but on this special day, I didn’t find any option rather than to show a bit of reality. It’s my point of view, but still, I respect each and everyone’s emotions. You may not think like me but you and I always “we”. We…we are women, we are human.

Think again..

by rosidabegum, posted in blog

We are blessed because we can think and rethink. We can think before we act. The way we act thoughtlessly sometimes gives a horrible outcome. And then the rest is painful.

Going through a lot of circumstances, you can easily find that your repeated thinking has made your decisions more efficient. There is no The End of anything until you ask yourself to conclude it. There are certain factors that you need to apply as fully a pause as possible.

Think again about your Expectations

I can not say that you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone. There is nothing bad if you have certain expectations from your near and dear one. But think again about what you are expecting and how much? Are you becoming the selfish one who cares only about self-expectations? Is it good to speak always about your sentiment, attitude, affection, or dreams? Remember, no one is there for you to fill your expectations every time. You must realize the rule of expectation, Give and Take. Think again, are you willing to give that affection to others, are you willing to respect others’ sentiment? How much you care for others, if not, then why these expectations? Doing this, inadvertently you hand over your happiness to others. Because when you see someone not meeting your expectation, you get frustrated. It means that you are being controlled by others. So, come out of the self-centric cave and limit your expectations. Decrease your expectations to gain your happiness.

Think again before explaining.

Do you think people want your explanation? If someone wants to criticize you, he will somehow detect a small point for that. You cannot satisfy everyone. And those who care about you will never ask you for an explanation. Better think again and do what you love to do( but respect the laws and orders and be a sensible one). By explaining to others about yourself means you are not confident enough and you seek Validation from others. You can stop seeking validation by yourself.

How to stop seeking validation from others: Effective ways

Think again before making an excuse.

Excuses never work. You can give any excuse to others for your failure or loss. But what you should say to yourself. Any excuses? Before making an excuse think again, this is a lie you are telling yourself. Although sometimes excuses don’t harm you but take away you from yourself. This is how you deny to accept yourself as you are. The first thing you should avoid making excuses for is to take responsibility for your failure. Do not play the blame game. Because almost all of us have this tendency that, blame others for our mistakes. However, some people never play this game because they take responsibility for their every loss and win.

Focus on your strength to stay away from making excuses. It works as an immune booster. When you focus on your strengths and make them more productive, you build more dignity in yourself. As a result, you gain more confidence to work on your weakness.

Conclusion

Think again about these three E’s,

1.Expectation

2.Explanation

3.Excuses.

The way we think the way we live. If you want to live a life more productive and fruitful, think about those for which you are making your life unnecessarily complicated. It depends on you what you want to be, think again.

3 effective ways to enhance your inner beauty

by rosidabegum, posted in blog, inspirational

When you say about beauty, it depends on how you define it? Because as per the dictionary, beauty is a combination of various qualities that pleases the aesthetic sense, especially the sight. Anything that looks good always attracts human eyes; a beautiful flower or a beautiful drawing, a beautiful dress or a beautiful smile. But there is something more beyond the sight.

There is no correct statistics to define your beauty. It depends on the way you present yourself and the way you live. More or less the makeup you wear on your face can cover your spots or scars or you can shine but you don’t need to wear anything expensive to reflect your inner beauty. The attire of your intellectual is something different from the so-called designer outfits, which enhances your beauty from inside you. When you feel good from the inside your look good from the outside and when you make your internal beautiful, it echoes your outside.

“True beauty is not really what color your hair is or what color your eyes are. True beauty is about who you are as a human being, your principles, your moral compass.”–Ellen DeGeneres.

I have listed 3 effective steps to enhance your inner beauty to please your soul and to motivate others. I am sure this will work for you.

Find out your unique quality.

We all are created for a good purpose and we all have our unique quality. But you will feel sorry that most of us spend our whole life without knowing that, what is our unique quality?

It is very important to know yourself and to accept yourself as you are. You can nurture your ordinary quality to make it extraordinary. But for that, you need to respect yourself and admire your existence. Unless and until you realize your value you cannot find your hidden qualities. Whatever you accomplish with full of heart, you can see that can grow more inside you.

Let’s simplify it.

1. Respect yourself and believe in yourself.

2.Nurture your ordinary quality and make it extraordinary.

3. Admire every small skill and accomplish it from your heart.

Practice self-love

Self-love is the way to become beautiful internally. It doesn’t mean to be selfish or insensitive. You always do many things to satisfy your near and dear ones. As a family person, you have many roles to play. But you ignore the most important one and that’s you. When you do not accompany yourself, at the end of the day you get dishearten and this leads to irritation, stress, and depressions. Remember, an unsatisfied soul can not satisfy others. A heart full of disappointment can not please others. You must have love and care inside you to pour it outside. So, every day you should do something pleasant to pamper yourself. Like, Cook your favorite meal or listen to your favorite music, or do something that you love to do. Don’t underrate your liking. Be cheerful inside to cheer outside. One truth you can’t deny is that you can not please everyone. Some people will scrutinize your every deed to find out a fault. If you are full of enthusiasm and self-confidence, you will be able to ignore those unfavorable quite easily.

Remember, your journey or your story is as valuable as others. You may feel less powerful but ask yourself from where you have started. Acknowledge your efforts. One life, make it..

Enjoy your company and increase your inner stength. There is nothing strange if you think more about yourself. When you care and pamper yourself it keeps you mentally strong. After all mental health matters. This will help you to stay fit and strong physically. And a healthy person can take care of others, not a patient.

Taking off time for yourself, or enjoying your own company can give rise to a smile from your heart. This smile will always enhance your internal grace.

Include your intellectual growth with self-love. Stay updated and keep learning. Be creative and strengthen your social intelligence.

Be grateful.

Life has given us lots of good things for which we must be grateful every day. Be thankful for all those factors which make life beautiful. Despite so many negativities, an optimist finds out those precise aspects for which life becomes joyous. Look at your surrounding and realize the value of your relationship with your loved one. Stay connected with nature. Look at those beautiful things around you. Although life is a gift.

When you practice gratitude, you become thoughtful and simple. You will start to be more compassionate and feel more humming. This boosts your positive emotion. But there is not always everything in your favor. You experience many negatives in life. These give you a tough challenge and being grateful teaches you to accept and overcome those challenges or on the other hand, you must be thankful for the challenges that impel you more powerful.

So, start listing all those small things for which you’re grateful. Keeping a gratitude journal is the most useful idea. The saying of Henry Ward Beecher is very much related to the topic and that is, “Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.”

Conclusion

We are not perfect but we have a distinct identity. Our external beauty fades away but the inner beauty which makes us special never evaporates. Good thing is that by enhancing our inner beauty we enjoy life more.

“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is light in the heart.”-Khalil Gibran

What helps you to enhance your inner beauty? Will you love to share with us your opinions?

Value of simplicity: How to follow simplicity in life.

by rosidabegum, posted in blog, inspirational

In this modern era, a simple lifestyle is becoming popular among people who want to live a peaceful and high-quality life. The term simplicity is different for different people. But living a life with simplicity means they have almost the same philosophy of life.

Simplicity is a habit or a perspective that you practice for living. It comes with so many advantages.

When you embrace simplicity in life you understand the value of every penny. You work hard for your living and you have the freedom to choose things for yourself or your’s. There is nothing unusual when you choose a few amenities over simplicity. Because simplicity is not the opposite of amenity. It is the opposite of complexity. When you mess up your living with unnecessary it creates complexity.

“Simplicity is the final achievement. After one has played vast quality of notes and more notes, it is simplicity that emerges as the crowning reward of art.” –Fredreic Chopin.

Simplicity teaches us to be more focused on the stuff that matters more. This is how we get rid of the distraction from unwanted noisy stuff. Here is the term minimalism comes to our mind. But I think minimalism refers to the term simplicity but simplicity doesn’t always ask to be minimalist. Though simplicity sounds more similar to minimalism but to be a minimalist we need to be sharp and need to adopt extreme spareness. In the other hand, simplicity is a state of mind to stay uncomplicated and modest.

Choosing the policy of simplicity reduces stress and debt and produces adore and sympathy. You laugh more when you learn to be simple. You enjoy your every little win when you adopt simplicity in life. This makes your mind clutter-free along with your home and workspace.

Simple living and high thinking. This line holds the additional miles when you cultivate simplicity because you become more open with an uncomplicated living. You prefer to be realistic rather than materialistic. Your happiness doesn’t depend on things. It depends on your state of mind. Your quality of thoughts boosts with your lifestyle.

Accept simplicity from your heart. If you want to embrace simplicity in life you need to think and accept it from your heart. You need to fall in love with it. Because only strategies are not going to work for you. Your heart and your soul must have the urge for it.

How to follow simplicity in life?

You live a life in your way. If you are someone who doesn’t have time to be a part of an unnecessary drama, then simplicity is the precise route for you. It is as simple as being natural. Let’s have a look at some basic points to follow a simpler lifestyle.

1. Remember life is simple. It becomes complicated when you don’t have the right attitude. So change your attitude to simplify everything in your life.

2. Be yourself. Know yourself. Keep consuming positivity. Don’t be overly concerned about others judgement.

3. Stop being fake. Unneeded show-off should be avoided. Be natural. When you find the true vision of being natural you will realise what makes more elegant. Your wisdom and learnings are more expensive than your elements.

4. Be more creative. Do meditation to connect your sanity. Allow yourself to breathe freely.

5. Remove toxins from your life. Identify those toxins which create trouble. Toxic people or toxic appliances need to be wiped out.

6.Declutter your home and workspace. You don’t need to throw out the storages but be organised with them.

7. Understand that you don’t need to satisfy everyone. If you try to please each one at a time things will be more complicated for you. Stay away from it.

Conclusion

Simplicity differs from person to person. But Life is as simple as that. Accepting simplicity will lead to a more successful life. Think about the complicated mathematics of your textbook..and feel what happens when you simplify it and get the answer. It feels so good. Isn’t it? Simplification of lifestyle is as good as that.

What is your understanding of simplicity in life? Will you like to add more points to the list?

Build Your Inner Strength

by rosidabegum, posted in blog, inspirational

We are what we make it.In a single life how we live depends on our wills,our strength. Strength has two basic faces.

Physical Strength and Mental Strength.

We are eating good food, taking suppliments,doing regluar workout to build our physical strength. Spending lots of money and time to stay fit and to stay healthy.

However for a fruitful life both are equally important.But there are lots of examples where without proper physical strength a person has reached the top of the success .They are legends. They have created history. With strong inner strength they made their life worthy.

“You really have to look yourself and find your own inner strength,and say,’I’m proud of what I am and who I am’.”

–Mariah Carey

Life has no restart button. Untill we take our last breath we live our life with lots of ups and downs. We face lots of challenges.We all have our own story. If someone is struggling till the end ..somone is creating history.

If we build a strong inner strength we can defeat all obstacles on our way.We can convert our ordinary trait to extraordinary power with our inner strength.It is a necessary skill to accomplish and achieve our goals.

If you are feeling lack of inner strength no need to worry ;because you can cultivate this skill very easily by adapting few good habits. Habits are nothing but something we continue to practise .

1.Know Yourself And Transform Youself.

We as a human being may have lots of disabilities . Sometime it is important to accept our disabilities . But don’t let you disability become your weakness. Mental weakness will create complexity.So know yourself. Only if you want to feel like a loser than you will love to live with your weakness. To be a winner face the world with your power. Power of conquering the battle. Remember nobody wants to talk about the loser,people talk about the winner.

2. Follow Healthy lifestyle.

Your inner strength can go down if you are having an unhealthy and irresponsible lifestyle.Follow healthy lifestyle with supportive and loving people. Develop good habits to live a healthy life. Consumption of Junk foods..alcohol produce stress and illness. So you must have a control over your habits.

3.Don’t Buy Negativity.

News papers,social media,Tv shows which are constantly selling negativity to destroy social harmony, should be avoided. Participate in healthy criticism. Be responsible towards the society.

4. Don’t live in past.

The bitter experience of your past life paralyzes your mind. So focus on your present and let go of the past. Learn from your past failures or mistakes but pdon’t let those disempowring stories control your mind.

Building inner strength is not a rocket science. You only need to train your mind and body in disciplined way. Your strength provides you the ability to accept all challenges and face the world with more power. Because inner strength is like the fuel of your mind. Don’t let the fuel finish.

Benifits of Strong Inner Strength.

1.More control over your life.

2. Build Decision making power.

3.Become courageous to handle hardship of life.

4.Able to say ‘no’ to unwanted and unnecessary.

5.Celebrate life.

“You have power over your mind-not outside events.Realize this and,you will find strength.”

– Marcus Aurelius.

How to stay productive everyday:

by rosidabegum, posted in Uncategorized

“Never underestimate your power to change yourself”

-H.Jackson Brown,Jr

It is very important to have some productivity in our day to day life.Every moment we are spending is a price of our life.When we start our day we start with some new experiences,with some new hopes and if not then you can say our life is in death bed.Without having any productivity in daily life is waste of time and waste of time is waste of life.
So take a pause and think for a while ,”Am I wasting my life or using my time to produce something good?” But to produce something good we need to consume good.It is very important to find out those mistakes for which we are not able to stay productive.
Some reasons for which we are still staying non productive.


1.Laziness
2.Doing boring things every day in same pattern.
3.No proper planning.
4.Maximum use of social media and wasting time.
5.Unable to set priority.
6.Consuming more negative thoughts.
7.Unhealthy diet.
8.lack of physical and mental exercises.


Let’s see how can we stay productive.

Wake up early.

This is for those who usually go to bed very late without a proper reason. There are people who are doing evening shifts or who study whole night or parents who have small kids they must have their own schedule. They may have their own time table but people who don’t have any serious reason they need to make a habit to rise early morning.For that they must go to bed early. This will help them in many ways..when they go to sleep early they will automatically minimize their unnecessary screen time. We can not deny the fact that some gadgets are controlling our lives.
From those gadgets most of the time we are knowingly or unknowingly consuming lots of negativities .When we cut down those negativities we give our mind a room to be quite for a while. If at this point we use our mind in practising positivity then it will surely be a big win for us. In another way when we rise early we get some extra hours in our life.
Also for a good night sleep make habit of early to bed.

Proper planning

It is necessary to wake up with a proper planning for the day. Make a to-do list for the next day.By following the to -do-list you can complete your work on time.

Feed your mind.

You must feed your mind time to time. Feed your mind with positive thoughts and as a result you are going stay happy and full of life.Our brain produces serotonin when we feel happy and this creates well-being. To feed your mind with positive thoughts you can follow two action steps.


1.Make a habit of reading positive stuffs on daily basis.Reading is a fine work out for your mind. There are lots of Motivational books, Biographies and Autbiographies, Novels and Short stories or Articles.You can pick one of them.
2.Listen to motivational audio or podcasts and repeat. This will surely become a part of your life when you listen again and again. Repetition of somthing become a habit easily. You will adopt those positive and inspirational thoughts which will work to produce happiness,positivity and energy.

Stop Procastinating

Do your work on time. Tomorrow never comes. Know the value of time.When you start procastinating your work you make your work more difficult. What you need to do?You just start to do what you have to do and also say to your mind that thos os the only time for this particular work. To avoid procastination you need to avoi distaction also. Between our work we we usually become distracted. To avoid this you must have a strong mindset.You can be distracted by various things. So find out those things which can distract you from your work. For example, you can be distracted by you mobile phone or daily news(which are mostly negative and can upset your mind).So before you complete your task don’t allow these to distractyou. Just say to youself,”I am on my duty. I have no time for other things.”

Work on priority basis.

You must know the importance of your work and must have an idea which one is in tio priority list. Do it as your priority list. Don’t try to be multitaskig when you are doing something really very important. First complete it and then start the next. Otherwise it will become messy

Take healthy diet and do exercises

This is one of the most important thing to stay productive. Our health is the key of every lock. To open the lock You must have the key which means u need to stay healthy and fit. Physical strength mostly depends on our healthy diet and proper exercise .
So stay fit,stay healthy. Avoid consumption of unhealthy food. Avoid consumption of Alchol.
Take rest betweent your work which is also very important.

It is not easy to stay productive all time. But by following above action steps you can make it easy.For which you need to guide yourself and know your value. Be yourself.

THREE STEPS TO BOOST SELF-ESTEEM:

by rosidabegum, posted in blog, inspirational

Lets know what is self-esteem

Self- esteem is what we feel about ourself.We all have self-esteem but it depends on our attitude.Our self-esteem can be low, high or average .So here are three very basic and easy steps through one can boost his/her self-esteem.

1.Love yourself.

Yes…love yourself.Don’t say nobody loves me or takes care of me.You need to love yourself and take care of youself. First you must think that you have a value.You are special. You are not ordinary,you are extra ordinary. Believe in yourself and start to love yourself as you are.Don’t make complains like..I am not good looking or I am very short or fat or whatever.Create your inner beauty and for that you need to love yourself. When you love yourself ,you feel good about yourself and when you feel good then you can find good about others and you start to like other.If like others,they will like you too.This will boost your self-esteem up and up..

2 Make positive auto-suggestion.

We always talk to ourself.Our mind never stops and most of the time we say negative things to us. So convert those negative talks to positive. For example instead of saying I can not start say I can.When you make some suggestions for yourself it should be positive. Say I can do this or I am special, I am a strong person, I am a fighter.God is protecting me or Universe is protecting me.When stop negative thinking and start positive thinkig you will see the change in yourself which will make you happier than ever. And this will help you to boost your sel-esteem.

3.Self discipline

You know self discipline is the key to success. When you maintain a disciplined life style people will respect you. A self disciplined person is respected by all. To be a self disciplined person you must take care of your health. You must have an control over your action and reaction. You can give yourself some tasks to complete them in a particular period. This type of practices make you self disciplined . Being self disciplined one can easily give up his/her bad habits.

So,start with these basic steps and be a high self-esteemed person. Your life is going to change by changing some little things.

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