Time, you never spare
You heal or you bare
But it’s not that you be the same
Now and then
Only you move towards the age.
Where you keep the silent tear
During the ocean of fear
Keep my little drops of zest
to heal me
Or to bear.
Tag: #mentalhealth
Endless thoughts..
Your or mine
Life is like a bottle of wine.
With years and years
It comes stronger
the taste, the smell, or the color.
A huge void is everywhere today. We don’t know where we are heading to. The void due to uncertainty of life, the void due to fear of losing someone is today’s reality. Keeping distance is the medicine of today’s illness. Gone are days when we celebrate togetherness.
Life indoors is more difficult to carry on. But we are helpless because we can not see our enemy. Was it our destiny? Millions of people taking their last breath because breathing is now the most expensive thing. Can we just play hide and seek or stand fearless in front of this pandemic?
Today being positive is no more positive. But we are positive, Positive towards a new dawn. Who will bring this new light? We together or alone? Let’s keep aside all the fear and anxiety and think about whom you are carrying in your heart now and then. Distances can not stop you to carry someone in your heart.
Although there is silence everywhere, we are still busy in our lives. We have many great deals on our heads. What will happen next? We are busy with our frustration, we are busy with our plans, gossip, anger and more. Relax and ask yourself, when there is a better option then why are all these keeping us busy? Yes, there is a better option to stay busy and it is you. You can find yourself in a new way. Listen to your heart and body, it has been whispering to you for many years. Do not ignore it as before. Spread love and care and start it with yourself.
There is no end of thoughts…to be continued..
Life goes on..
It is a big dilemma that… life is short when you like it and life becomes very long when you do not enjoy it. Above all, we live life with joy and grief, with struggle and glory. It has many stages but we live so many times to die once. Just after birth, we start to play many roles. A script has written for you where you have to play many roles and you may not get the best performer award, you may not be the superstar but still, you can sparkle like a star.
It was difficult for me to stay away from what I love. Without reading and writing, I was just struggling with my hard days due to bad health conditions. But there was something that always realizes me pick up stones of my path and built a staircase to step upwards.
Although life is not a bed of roses. Hardships are there to make or to break you, but nobody is there without testing life’s hardship. In my hard time, I prefer to read and repeat these beautiful lines in life.
“Life has many ways of testing a person’s will, either by having nothing happen at all or by having everything happen all at once.”- Paulo Coelho
“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.”- Og Mandino
” In tough times, everyone has to take their share of the pain.”-Theresa May
Life goes on…
Thanks for reading😊
Think again..
We are blessed because we can think and rethink. We can think before we act. The way we act thoughtlessly sometimes gives a horrible outcome. And then the rest is painful.
Going through a lot of circumstances, you can easily find that your repeated thinking has made your decisions more efficient. There is no The End of anything until you ask yourself to conclude it. There are certain factors that you need to apply as fully a pause as possible.
Think again about your Expectations
I can not say that you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone. There is nothing bad if you have certain expectations from your near and dear one. But think again about what you are expecting and how much? Are you becoming the selfish one who cares only about self-expectations? Is it good to speak always about your sentiment, attitude, affection, or dreams? Remember, no one is there for you to fill your expectations every time. You must realize the rule of expectation, Give and Take. Think again, are you willing to give that affection to others, are you willing to respect others’ sentiment? How much you care for others, if not, then why these expectations? Doing this, inadvertently you hand over your happiness to others. Because when you see someone not meeting your expectation, you get frustrated. It means that you are being controlled by others. So, come out of the self-centric cave and limit your expectations. Decrease your expectations to gain your happiness.
Think again before explaining.
Do you think people want your explanation? If someone wants to criticize you, he will somehow detect a small point for that. You cannot satisfy everyone. And those who care about you will never ask you for an explanation. Better think again and do what you love to do( but respect the laws and orders and be a sensible one). By explaining to others about yourself means you are not confident enough and you seek Validation from others. You can stop seeking validation by yourself.
How to stop seeking validation from others: Effective ways
Think again before making an excuse.
Excuses never work. You can give any excuse to others for your failure or loss. But what you should say to yourself. Any excuses? Before making an excuse think again, this is a lie you are telling yourself. Although sometimes excuses don’t harm you but take away you from yourself. This is how you deny to accept yourself as you are. The first thing you should avoid making excuses for is to take responsibility for your failure. Do not play the blame game. Because almost all of us have this tendency that, blame others for our mistakes. However, some people never play this game because they take responsibility for their every loss and win.
Focus on your strength to stay away from making excuses. It works as an immune booster. When you focus on your strengths and make them more productive, you build more dignity in yourself. As a result, you gain more confidence to work on your weakness.
Conclusion
Think again about these three E’s,
1.Expectation
2.Explanation
3.Excuses.
The way we think the way we live. If you want to live a life more productive and fruitful, think about those for which you are making your life unnecessarily complicated. It depends on you what you want to be, think again.
3 effective ways to enhance your inner beauty
When you say about beauty, it depends on how you define it? Because as per the dictionary, beauty is a combination of various qualities that pleases the aesthetic sense, especially the sight. Anything that looks good always attracts human eyes; a beautiful flower or a beautiful drawing, a beautiful dress or a beautiful smile. But there is something more beyond the sight.
There is no correct statistics to define your beauty. It depends on the way you present yourself and the way you live. More or less the makeup you wear on your face can cover your spots or scars or you can shine but you don’t need to wear anything expensive to reflect your inner beauty. The attire of your intellectual is something different from the so-called designer outfits, which enhances your beauty from inside you. When you feel good from the inside your look good from the outside and when you make your internal beautiful, it echoes your outside.
“True beauty is not really what color your hair is or what color your eyes are. True beauty is about who you are as a human being, your principles, your moral compass.”–Ellen DeGeneres.
I have listed 3 effective steps to enhance your inner beauty to please your soul and to motivate others. I am sure this will work for you.
Find out your unique quality.
We all are created for a good purpose and we all have our unique quality. But you will feel sorry that most of us spend our whole life without knowing that, what is our unique quality?
It is very important to know yourself and to accept yourself as you are. You can nurture your ordinary quality to make it extraordinary. But for that, you need to respect yourself and admire your existence. Unless and until you realize your value you cannot find your hidden qualities. Whatever you accomplish with full of heart, you can see that can grow more inside you.
Let’s simplify it.
1. Respect yourself and believe in yourself.
2.Nurture your ordinary quality and make it extraordinary.
3. Admire every small skill and accomplish it from your heart.
Practice self-love
Self-love is the way to become beautiful internally. It doesn’t mean to be selfish or insensitive. You always do many things to satisfy your near and dear ones. As a family person, you have many roles to play. But you ignore the most important one and that’s you. When you do not accompany yourself, at the end of the day you get dishearten and this leads to irritation, stress, and depressions. Remember, an unsatisfied soul can not satisfy others. A heart full of disappointment can not please others. You must have love and care inside you to pour it outside. So, every day you should do something pleasant to pamper yourself. Like, Cook your favorite meal or listen to your favorite music, or do something that you love to do. Don’t underrate your liking. Be cheerful inside to cheer outside. One truth you can’t deny is that you can not please everyone. Some people will scrutinize your every deed to find out a fault. If you are full of enthusiasm and self-confidence, you will be able to ignore those unfavorable quite easily.
Remember, your journey or your story is as valuable as others. You may feel less powerful but ask yourself from where you have started. Acknowledge your efforts. One life, make it..
Enjoy your company and increase your inner stength. There is nothing strange if you think more about yourself. When you care and pamper yourself it keeps you mentally strong. After all mental health matters. This will help you to stay fit and strong physically. And a healthy person can take care of others, not a patient.
Taking off time for yourself, or enjoying your own company can give rise to a smile from your heart. This smile will always enhance your internal grace.
Include your intellectual growth with self-love. Stay updated and keep learning. Be creative and strengthen your social intelligence.
Be grateful.
Life has given us lots of good things for which we must be grateful every day. Be thankful for all those factors which make life beautiful. Despite so many negativities, an optimist finds out those precise aspects for which life becomes joyous. Look at your surrounding and realize the value of your relationship with your loved one. Stay connected with nature. Look at those beautiful things around you. Although life is a gift.
When you practice gratitude, you become thoughtful and simple. You will start to be more compassionate and feel more humming. This boosts your positive emotion. But there is not always everything in your favor. You experience many negatives in life. These give you a tough challenge and being grateful teaches you to accept and overcome those challenges or on the other hand, you must be thankful for the challenges that impel you more powerful.
So, start listing all those small things for which you’re grateful. Keeping a gratitude journal is the most useful idea. The saying of Henry Ward Beecher is very much related to the topic and that is, “Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul.”
Conclusion
We are not perfect but we have a distinct identity. Our external beauty fades away but the inner beauty which makes us special never evaporates. Good thing is that by enhancing our inner beauty we enjoy life more.
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is light in the heart.”-Khalil Gibran
What helps you to enhance your inner beauty? Will you love to share with us your opinions?
Love or lie
That dark night
When stars refused to shine
The sparkle of your eyes
Chose to lighten me
There was something
Which I couldn’t find
Oh, a little spark
Are you love or lie?
Life gives us many things. Some are always a mystery. When you find something on your trouble you do not understand them whether those are for you or against you.
What do you think about it? Have you ever thought that sometimes you are unable to find whether it is love or lie?
One life, make it..
Everything in our life happens with an intention. The life cycle of a human being mostly from the stroller to a wheelchair is a unique chapter of the vast subject called life. We all have come to live a life with dignity. No one can steal our birthright. But how many times we realise it? Do we embrace life with pride?
Let’s simplify it. When we realise life as a gift we cherish it. Isn’t it?
Some create history and some fights to create their identity. Barriers are different but exist for all. Some put effort to set boundaries for others and some are struggling to break it.
Life is like a cricket match. Social life or personal life, always has it’s boundaries. You may not hit an over the boundary. But still, you can play the match to the last over with patience and technique or if you cannot stay long, you still have the opportunity to score more. It depends on you. Your practice makes you perfect. And surprisingly life is all about practising some habits.
The religion we practise or the culture we practice is nothing but a habitual life force. We are following something without a change or we are changing something to follow that. But if you understand what makes the difference between an ordinary and extraordinary you will see the life as significant. Every little thought matters in your life. When you have the opportunity to make it delightful and worthy, why not try?
Make it.
1.You’re not alone. You have faced a lot of obstacles, but remember this always, there are millions of people who have a certain fight. Everyone has a story. The untold story that can teach others so many life lessons. Your story can also be specific and inspiring if you learn how to cope with life’s difficulties.
2.Leave the past and live in present. You cannot change what happened in the past. So, why don’t let it go? This moment is yours. If you live this moment fullest then your tomorrow is going to be delighted.
3. Understand the responsibility. Your life is yours but you have some responsibility towards it. You can choose your comfort zone to hide yourself or you can choose to come out of your comfort zone to be an inspiration. We live only one life and influence so many lives. Isn’t it enough to a responsible one?
4.Be courageous. It doesn’t matter how small or big you are it matters how courageous you are. A tiny ant falls a hundred times when it brings food but still goes on. The little bird doesn’t leave to build it’s a nest for fear for a storm. Step forward if you have a dream. Your one-step can open the door to your destiny.
5.Build your character before you build the empire. As a human being, we always have scopes for self modifications. Look at the area of your struggle, work on it. Be humble, practice kindness, learn leadership, but how? Is it that easy? No. Building character is a life long practice. It requires commitment and practice.
6. Your contribution is invaluable. Whoever you are, you retain some contribution to your community, good or bad, big or small, but it happens. Who does not want to be a good contributor? If you are positively driven then you can make a useful contribution. For that, your small act can make a big difference.
You need to realise how you can make a difference because life is full of opportunity if you learn it.
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” — Mae West.
Do you feel this type of motivation works to drive on the right path?
Thanks for reading.
Hope shouldn’t die
Hope shouldn’t die
If you want to fly,
To touch the sky
With your soul.
Who knows you?
Nevermind.
Wings that come
From your sanity
You know
There is something
Who drags you
To the mud
But if you see
A little sapling
Always looks up,
Though it knows
The sky never comes to it
Still, it grows
Looking up the high.
Never claim it as poetry just I am trying to express my thoughts poetically.
I am hopeful. Looking up the high. Miles to go and lets hope never die.
Welcome, 2021.
🌱🌾🌳
3 best motivational books from my collection: Must read
Reading is the most precious habit I have cultivated so far. Those who read can understand how a book can change your vibrancy. A book can help you to prosper when you feel inadequate. It becomes your companion when you feel lonely. There are many reasons to embrace the habit of reading.
The readers should thank the authors for their knowledge and their achievements along with their contribution to building our lives. Here I am listing 3 highly recommend books from my collection bag which can undoubtedly renovate your vitality.
1.The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
Written by Robin Sharma, an international best selling author, the book is about a high profile lawyer named Julian Mantle who turned into a monk, sold his mansion and Ferrari and enlightened his life with the mythology of the sages of Sivana, whom he meets in the mystical land of India, across the Himalayan range. The sages reside in an isolated village in the Himalayan where Julian arrived after his research to lead a youthful and enlightened life. With his dedication to an enlightened life, he learned the principles of life from the chief of the sages and promised to spread his knowledge to others with the same dedication. He narrated the fables of Yogi Raman, the chief of the sages to his young lawyer friend John, who is also very busy and overwhelmed in his professional life. Julian shares the seven principles of life and ten rituals of radiant living with John.
Though the story is fictitious, the message of the book is the absolute truth of enlightened life. This book is about the purpose of life, about devotion to life. The importance of selflessly serving others, living in the present, self-discipline, self-mastery, power of words, power of silence, opposite thinking, and many lessons that I learned from the book which are positively taking off benefit me in my daily life. Living your dream and achieving goals with simple living and high thinking, practicing good habits, and controlling every small act of the mind is possible for you whether you are 20 years energetic student or 50 years experienced individual. You are going to develop with the wisdom of this story. Therefore, I recommend this book.
Learning from The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari in a blink.
1.Know yourself to master your mind.
2.Build your inner strength to nurture your outer world.
3.Life become easier and rewarding when you find your purpose.
4.Spend time with nature to enhance your vitality.
5.To work harder, create positive pressure on you.
6.We get tired when I do that work which we don’t enjoy. So fatigue is nothing but a mental creation.
7.Power of isolation and silence. To attain peace of mind and to access unlimited enthusiasm these two rituals are most effective.
8.Write down your goals.This helps your subconscious mind to work on it.
9.You can change your life if you make space for it. So keep empty your cup to fill it with new ideas.
2.The Alchemist
This book is one of the most recommended motivational books written by Paulo Coelho, especially for the students. The book teaches you how to live your dream and achieve your goal, without giving up your courage. The story of the book is about a boy named Santiago who wants to travel and wants to see the lives of other people, other places and for that he chooses to be a shepherd and this adventurous Andulasian shepherd dreamt of a treasure in Egyptian Pyramids, decides to pursue his dream and travels far to the Egyptian Pyramid to find treasure. Lots of obstacles he faced but he never gave up. His rock-solid determination made the impossible possible. In his journey to the dream comes true he met many people who played a significant role in his life. The lessons he learned from every situation and personalities helped him to become closer to his dream.
Since I didn’t read this book in my college life, I found this book is highly effective for students as well as for others to know the purpose of life. This book teaches that if you are strongly determined to achieve your goal nothing can stop you to accomplish it. This book inspires you to, work hard, do not leave your dream, do not lose your hope and never be scared of failures in life.
Learning from Alchemist in a blink.
1.Listen to your heart. The Universe helps you in your journey.
2.Curiousity is good. Be enthusiastic to know new things.
3.Overcome your fear.
4.Take action to obtain your ambition.
5.Live in present.
6.Stay focus.
7.Be courageous to make your own decision.
8.Success makes you a better version of yourself. The contagion effect of your victory is visible in the area around you. It benefits your living.
9.You can experiment the new if you reject impossible.
3.The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind
This book is one of the most all-time best selling inspirational guide book written by Joseph Morphy. This worldwide accepting and admiring book can teach you how you can change your life with the power of your subconscious mind. In this book, you will find easy techniques to train your mind. Our objective mind which is called the conscious mind through which we make decisions. But the subjective mind which is called a subconscious mind is independent of the conscious mind. It functions automatically as the heart or digestive system or the blood circulation functions in our body.
This book reveals how you can change yourself and achieve your goal by changing your habitual thinking. Because your thoughts reflect you. The vast learning from this book can do a miracle in your life if you apply properly to empower your subconscious mind. How does visualization work in your favour? The mental movie technique and how it helps to achieve your goal? The unconscious learning we have practised for a long, know-how? These are some learning that you can get from this classic self-help book. This book is grounded in both science and faith, and so far millions of copies sold.
Learning from The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind in a blink.
1.Your thought of mind makes your world.
2.Your subconscious mind has healing power.
3.Peace of mind is necessary for success.
4.A good night sleep is essential for a healthy body and peaceful mind. By Suggesting your subconscious you can have it.
5.By thinking good for others you think good for yourself.
6.It depends on you what you want to be. Good or bad, evil or angel.
7.You get the answer of your prayer.
8.Focus on your success to defeat your fear.
9.Your thinking keeps you young.
Conclusion
Learning is an endless process. There can be many learning options compared to books, but if you choose to read, you can gain millions of understanding in one pointer.
Among a huge number, I have listed only three which are a phenomenon.Read these books to increase your productivity and to transform your life.
What is the best motivational book in your collection bag?
Thank you for reading.
Say no to garbage in mind:Protect and clean up your mind
Keeping your mind healthy is as important as keeping the body healthy and fit.Every day we consume negativity from various sources which fills our mind with garbage. Let the garbage out.
1. Stay away from those selling negativity.
A healthy mind is important to live a healthy and sucessful life.To keep your mind healthy you need to stay away from toxic people and dirty media.Because there are only these two major resources exist to spread negativity in people and society.Some toxic mind are there to fulfill their evil intention and they attracts them who are mentally weak or you can say, they sell negativity to the buyers who do not have a strong and healthy mindset.I personally use to stay away from all dirty media which sell only negativity.There is no point wasting your time and energy on their so called breaking news. A crappy news or a worthless reading is enough to feed your mind with negativity or to squeeze your energy.Don’t you think it is better to avoid it? Because you cannot control others thought but you can control your consumption.
2.Active mind lives active life.
Although our mind never takes rest.It keeps thinking of something all the time.But it can not be called as active mind.Because an active mind always works on productive thoughts.About 60,000 thoughts come to our mind in a single day. That is unbelievable but true.There are hardly any productive ideas among this vast number of thoughts.
“Active minds that think and study,like swift brookes are seldom muddy.” –Aurther Guiterman
To strengthen the mind we need to train our brain in a proper way. The brain needs nourishment.Doing certain brain exercises keeps our mind active. Some effective exercises and diet for the brain are Reading a book,listening to good music, brain games, puzzle words ,learning and teaching a new skill,meditation etc. By doing these exercises mind remains calm and sharp,build concentration and boost intelligence.An active mind depends on what are you feeding and doing to your brain.
3.Work on disturbing thoughts.
Disturbing thoughts are nothing strange in the mind. Which is common to everyone. But the amount of disturbing thoughts and kind of disturbances may related to your mental health. Know how harmful these thoughts are.Find out the source of those disturbing thoughts.If one thinks of committing self-murder every moment, it is indeed serious and dangerous to his mental health.Disturbing thoughts often focus on violence,past traumatic incidents,unusual physical desires, self destructive and many more.It has no specific category and is not the same for everyone. But physical and mental exercises must be done to deal with persistent destructive and disturbing thoughts.Get rid of the disturbing thoughts by feeding your mind positive thoughts as affirmation. Listen to yourself and find out how your mind get corrupted.If it leads to destruction seek others help or talk to your trustworthy one.Practice positive self talk.Make sure you are not filling your mind with unnecessary and worthless thoughts.Developing a hobby, positive and encouraging people, taking proper mental and physical diet and reducing the intake of aggressive mass media content helps you to take the trash out of your mind.
Conclusion
It is the quality of human being among all living breeds to identify what is wrong or what is right.Making excuses and being a blind follower of anything can fill your mind with garbage.A clutter free mind can restore more energy and can be more productive.
Don’t let your mind become garbage bin.Clean it wisely.
Thank you dear readers for reading my post.
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