Listen To Your InnerVoice: Know The Effective Ways.

This morning I was having tea with some biscuits and while eating it I was feeling it is not good for me. I was consciously warning myself.This sugary and refined biscuits are not for me. Then I stopped myself to have it more. We often hear a voice from our heart which guides us in our way. This small but still strong voice is our inner voice or we call it gut,inner wisdom,inner calling,instinct etc.

Why should we listen to our inner voice?

Our inner voice is that sense or feeling which acts as our guide for time to time.We often talk about our sixth sense.That sense which is strong and wondering.But sometime we just ignore that inner voice or you can say ‘internal dialogues’.Take a pause and think, how many times you have regret for not trusting or underestimating your inner voice?I can bet you that you will say, many times.Mostly we have a doubt on that voice.For which we can not catch that.

How can I listen to my inner voice?

It is important to catch that voice coming from deep of your soul to recognise yourself.Because it reflects your belief system. We often misunderstand our head noise from inner voice. We talk to us nonstop all day long.That is self talk. Which creates a noise in our head. It may positive but mostly it is negative.So don’t mix up your inner voice with that noise.

To make a connection with your inner voice you need to stay calm.More you stay calm your inner voice become more strong.An anxious mind and body can not connect with it. So to listen to your inner wisdom or voice learn to control your anger and anxiety.

Meditation is the best way to stay calm.Take a deep breath when you feel anxious.Visualize yourself at a calm and cool state of mind.This helps tremendously to stay calm and listen to the voice of your soul.

Not to worry. If you are worrying about your own fortune and stressing your mind at every situation then it becomes difficult to catch the voice you hear from your soul.To get rid of your worries practice opposite thinking.

We often get stuck between our brain and heart. Sometime our brain opposes our heart and we accept the decision of our brain. The lack of faith to our fate makes us to do this. This is true that we cannot depend on our fate for every situation without taking any action but we can not deny the fortune.This is actually not only about the fate but about the spirituality too.

Control over yourself. Listening to the deep calling of your inner world depends on how much control you have on yourself.It is important to be relax and peaceful towards the ongoing situation.Don’t let othe head noise becomes more powerful and dominating to you.

The pattern of your inner voice is also important to know.Look back and collect those inner callings you have had so far.Then you can see the similarities and realize that pattern of your inner voice. I can find out more often I get the advice how to avoid blunders in my past and how should I not repeat those.

Conclusion

Again you may have lots of confusion that what is my inner voice which I have to follow or listen carefully. Because your head is twisting all the thoughts along like your fear,your hope or your desire. At this dilemma talk to your confusion and simplify your thought process.Make a good conversation with your confusion like you are discussing to someone who is seeking your help.Give yourself the space to interact with you and let your inner voice stronger than earlier . The more you connect with your inner voice the more know your worth.

Hope this blog will able to add some value in your life.Feel free to share your opinion on this topic in the comment box. I will love to hear from you.

Thank you for reading๐Ÿ˜Š

5 food to uplift your mood

It is said that door of your mind opens through the way of your stomach. Our health mostly depends on our food habits.But is it possible to improve our mental health with food? Is there any relation between food and mood?

We usually have craving for sweets when we feel stressed or sad. Even there are people who used to take alcohol to reduce stress. Both sugary food and alcohol have negative impact into our health.But there are certain food which can improve brain health to uplift mood.

1.Fish.

Fish which are rich in omega3 fatty acid should be in your meal for your mental well being.Selmon and tuna fish are rich in omega3 fatty acid. However some plant based omega3 fatty acid rich food are there, which are Red kidney bean,Cauliflower,Broccoli,Canola oil,Chia seeds and Flexseeds etc.

Omega3 fatty acids or DHA are not produced in our body naturally. So to work on it you can add fatty fish or plant based Omega3 fatty acid in to your meal.Researches has shown that consumption of Omega3 fatty acid leads to good mental health.

2.Eggs

Egg is a complete food, rich in Protein,Vitamin D and B12. Consumption of egg is benefited to our nervous system and our brain health. Since egg is high in antioxidants,it preserves and protects the brain cells. Egg is easily available and easy to cook food.Tons of ways are there to eat eggs.You can choose your favourite one. Mine is, egg poach and hard boiled egg curry.

3.Green Leafy vegetables.

Loaded with B Vitamin floate, green leafy veggies reduces depression and also improves metabolic system. Add green leafy veggies into your daily meal and stay both mentally and physically fit. Spinach,Turnip green,Ladies finger,Lettuce,Broccoli and many more are there in the green leafy veggie’s list.

4.Yogurt.

Yogurt contains active good bacteria which are called probiotics.Probiotics are good for our intestines.Low fat plain yogurts also contains good amount of protein,calcium,Vit B6 and B12,raboflavin,potassium and magnesium.It boosts immunity, protects bones and teeth, improves digestions and also reduces the risk of cancer.As a good source of probiotics ,consumption of yogurt reduces depressions because the lactobacilus bacteria affects our mood providing direct link between health of gut microbiome and brain. (As bacteria in the gut sends and receives signal to the brain it is known as gut-brain axis).

There are varities of yogurts available in market. Those are Greek Yogurt,Australian Yogurt,Soy Yogurt,AlmondYogurt,Goat milk Yogurt etc.

5.Fruits.

We know fresh fruits and vaggies are good for health. There is nothing new about it. But for good mood or mental well being certain fruits have really magnificent role.Know some of these miracle fruits.

1.Banana

2.Avocado

3.Watermelon

4.Berries

5.Apple

Fresh fruits contais minerals,fiber,vitamins and micronutrients. Consumption of fresh fruit keeps our body hydrated for long time and lowers the risk of depressions.

Conclusion

Above five foods are only a small part of the list of mood boosting food. There are many more names in the list. We all are blessed with lots of healthy food from Nature which keeps our body and mind healthy and energetic

To embrace a healthy lifestyle with fully energetic mood we need to add some healthy food into our diet.To feel good, food plays a significant role.

However it is true that our mood can be influence by many factors like sterss,financial imbalance,unhealthy relationship,poor health condition,unpleasant environment etc.But the role of healthy food in case of mental well being is vital.Researchers still working on the link between nutrients and mood but it also true that the relation between nutrients and mental health is emerging.

“Tell me what you eat,I will tell you who you are” -Brillat-Savarin.

Goobye Legend…


Today Assam is mourning on the death of ex-chief minister Shri Tarun Gogoi at age of 86. He served as the Chief Minister of Assam for 15 consecutive years(2001-2016). Shri Tarun Gogoi was one of most successful political leader of India. He was a prestigious member of Indian National Congress.

He was in critical condition for last few weeks due to post COVID-19 complication and multiple organ failure.

It is hard to say final goodbye to such a legend. He was people’s leader. His smiling face,his simplicity will always going to be missed. People of Assam will remember him as their most favourite CM.

To bring a new dawn to Assam,your contribution to establishing a prosperous Assam will always be remembered.๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

Rest In Peace Sir.


	

How To Deal With A Bad Day..

Every day when we wake up..we open our eyes we thank Almighty for an another day.A day with a new hope ..a day with a new prospective. But those gloomy days when you just want to be alone or want to hide yourself from everyone,are really tough to deal with.

To end your bad day with a good note need little effort from you.Here are some ways to deal with a real bad day.

1.Uplift yourself with a smile.

I know there is no switch to off the negativity at a moment. But there is a beautiful thing to welcome positivity.That is your smile. The curve in your face is the most beautiful thing you can wear. You don’t need to pay a penny to wear this most expensive attiare. The magic of a smile can uplift your mind anywhere you need.So wear a smile to do magic.

2.Change your mind with opposite thinking.

Opposite thinking,is a constructive way to get rid of worries.This simple technique can do magic in your life.This is nothing but a simple exercise to create a positive mindset.

As soon as you feel sad,take a deep breathe and find out the cause of your sadness.If you really want to change your mood just do the opposite of it. Do those things,what you do in a  happy mood.For first few attempt you may feel awkward but everything depends on our desire. Desire, to change the mindset;desire, to feel good.That morning when nasty feelings occupy your mind, say repeatedly to yourself , “It is a beautiful day”.Thus you start to feel good with thinking opposite what you feel. Because your brain starts to feel the day really beautiful.

3.Take a Good meal.

A good meal can make you feel good.For that choose your favourite one.Give a treat to you with a happy meal.I remember,in my childhood my father used to bring my favourite sweets when I fall in sick. That ‘meal therapy'(according to me it’s a therapy) was really magical.Now I also apply this ‘therapy’.

3.Rearrange your room.

This is a fantastic idea to get rid of negative feelings.When you pay attention to rearrange your room or home your mind starts to feel good.Decorating furnitures or room is an art.Do something creative to get out of a crummy day.

5.Nothing is permanent.

No matter how happy you are in your life but there is always a bad day in your way which you really don’t want to bear.But the truth is that there is nothing permanent,even your bad day.So think positive.

6.Write down your feelings.

Well,there is nothing serious but writing your feelings in your diary or anywhere will let your mind feel free from the discomfort.Sometime when I really feel stressful and fusrated I write all my feelings in a page and then I burn it. With this technique I feel relaxed from those negative thoughts.

Conclusion

Remember everything happens for a cause and there is always a scope to learn from every situation.Your bad day comes to teach you some lessons and makes you stronger than earlier. So don’t blame on it.Face your bad day with a never give up attitude and follow the above ways which are extremly helpful for me and hope will help you too.I will be glad to hear from you how you face your bad days.

You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one.Each day is a different one;each day brings a miracle of its own.It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.”

-Paulo Coelho.

Arohi’s Birthday..

Yesterday, 15th November was my little munchkin’s 5th birthday. It was a beautiful day, well spent with her favourite people.

Arohi..our birthday girl๐Ÿ˜˜

Arohi was so excited to celebrate her birthday and on her demand, her youngest Aunt(my youngest sister) made an Elsa cake for her.It was really a delicious and lovely cake.

Birthaday Cake.. on her demand๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

There was a small family dinner with my two sisters and my nephew. We go out for dinner and spend some quality time altogether. Here I am sharing some moments with you all.

Happy faces๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜
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Happy parents๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Love you all…๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

Minimize Kids Screen Time In This Pandemic Situation

The outbreak of COVID-19 hit affected the whole world with some unpredictability.It was beyond our imagination.Some countries are trying to normalize and some are still stuck. Social distancing and isolation is now the new normal.

In this pandemic situation parents are facing lots of challenges to raise their kids.All of sudden the whole scenario has been changed.Before the pandemic, kids were not allowed to bring mobile phones to school and now schooling is going on mobile phones.The situation has maximized kids screen time and we have no other choices.

It is known that digital space is no longer safe for young children.Lots of issues are rising with this.Not all, but most kids already have an addiction of mobile/digital space.At this point it is the toughest challenge for parents to raise kids. Due to less physical activities and home isolation it becomes more worse to deal with their demands.It has increased parents struggle to mantain kids mental and physical health.

As a parent how I reduced my kids screen time?

Like almost every mother I was always aware of my kids interest.I tried my level best to increase their interest in other activities.Besides mobile games,YouTube videos,TVshows they love to read books,make cartoons and also drawing.This helped me a lot to shift their interest from digital space to other activities.

Some steps really helped me.

1.Kids immitate us.So I choosed to read books rather than using mobile phone infornt of them.This helped me and my kids equally. Thankfully I have cultivated reading habit since my childhood.Now my kids are also developing this habit.

2.Buy atleast two new books in a month.Kids love new things.But that doesn’t mean that you need to buy new things for them frequently. But in case of book it is good to buy new books to increase their interest in reading.I use to buy atleast two book in a month to encourage them.Due to the new book they try to finish their old books first.This makes me really very happy.

3.They are bound to use screen to do their school activity.But I never allow them to use our phones without permission.

4.Ask for help in my house chores.I use to take help from them. I have assigned some particular works for them on regular basis e.g. folding their clothes,arrange study table,make the bed,watering plants.Since my elder son is 12 years old,he can guide his younger sister who is now 5 years old and they too enjoy their company.

5.Encourage them to explore their creativity.Every kid is unique.He or she has a unique quality. But it is important to know what is that.Parents plays a vital role in exploring their kids creative mind.When you idendtify the quality of your kids,you should encourage them to be more creative. I have realised that my kids love to draw and I give them a comfortable space to do it. Along with that space I always encourage them to be more creative.Now they have adopted it as their hobby.

6.Time table.It is not possible that your kids will totally avoid digital space. But you can reduce the use of gadgets by making a time table. Like their study time table there should be a strict time table for Television or mobile/computer.I am doing this and it really helps me.Now my kids watch TV twice in a week for maximum two hours.For computer games, the same instruction they follow. With this they are also happy. By getting a pre set time table they never get fusrated to quit their game or show.

7.Gadgets are not only for fun, these are educational tools also.This is the reason for which we can’t totally avoid gadgets.We should teach our kids the importance of gadgets.They should know that gadgets are not toys. For that, parents should avoid using their mobile phone,tablets or other gadgets infornt of kids,for their entertainment.

There are some horrifying data in internet about kids and teens gadgets addiction.Where young kids spend approx 6 hrs and teens spend more than 9 hrs with gadgets in a day.Is it acceptable for parents?For sure ‘No’.

Conclusion.

We can make excuses by saying our kids are stubborn,they are out of control.But with few commitment and dedication we can control their screen time before they get out of control.It is possible to live an active and healthy childhood with limited use of screen time for our children.With this realization, I put my efforts to minimize my kids screen time and I succeed it.

Thank you for reading๐Ÿ™

How to Stop Seeking Validation From Others:Effective Ways.

If you live for people’s acceptance you will die for their rejection.”

Do you remember when you were a kid, what you seek on an accomplishment of your little act?As a kid I used to seek my parents and teachers validation.And there was nothing bad.It was absolutely normal that you ask others feedback or acknowledgement as a kid.Receiving others approval or a reward makes us feel good, though the feeling is temporary.

But if you see the other side of the coin you will easly realize that how we become habitual to others opinions or feedback right from our childhood. Thus we learn to depend on others for our own matters.This makes us to depend on others approval.

You may seek valdation from others on your work,achievement ,ideas or choices. You may have countless reasons in support of others validation.But seeking for others validation is an immature act if you don’t have self-worth.

“Your self-worth does not belong in the hand of other people.”Ashley Hetherington

We love to receive rewards,we feel happy if someone praises us andwe also want to be recognised by others.These come to us spontaneously.This is how we handover our happiness to others hand.

Here I am sharing some action steps, to reduce seeking others validation at every situation.

Know your value.

Seeking others validation is okey if you have self-validation. If you know how worthy you are then your happiness or feelings will not totally depend on others recognition or opinion.

Boost your confidence.

Lack of self-confidence is one prime reason for seeking others validation.So be confident enough that your happiness will not depend on others opinion.You must have the guts to take risk. Here I am not saying about any dangerous stunt. But to start with something new or different you must have the confidence on you. Otherwise you will keep thinking what other people will say about you or your startup.

Different people different opinion.

Do you think that people whom you are caring so much are same?Are they have same mentality? It is impossible. They are different and their likes,dislikes or opinions are also different.Since you are constantly seeking others validation your progress is stuck in defferent types of opinions of different types of people.So know what are you losing.

Reduce Social Anxiety

We live in a society and we have some assigned responsibility towards our society.To continue with social harmony we must follow some rules and regulations. But it is not that you have to think every time how the society is going to judge you. Fear of social negative judgement leads to social anxiety.So don’t let others judgement control your feelings.Do what you like, in a healthy way and with no guilt.Without harming social harmony and diversity learn to attain your well deserving life.People who are going to judge you,they are also judged by others.

Conclusion

You are the only person who better know about your needs and desire.Stop worrying about others opinion on you.Don’t let others to control you.Your happiness should be in your hand, not others hand. Subsequently by stoping to seek others validation you will able receive it spontaneously. You will also able to attract others.They themselves will come to acknowledge you.

                     So..

I donโ€™t care what you think about me. I donโ€™t think about you at all.โ€ โ€“ Coco Chanel

But I really want to know what do you think about it.

Thank your for reading๐Ÿ˜Š

What I Learnt from my plants:Amazing Life Lessons.

In my tiny garden few plants are growing happily. When I look at them I feel amazing.Their tiny leaves are merrily dancing with wind without fear of falling down.They are mesmerizing my soul. My little plants are teaching me some important and valuable lessons of life.

Among all living organisms I feel pants are playing the role of a giver.We can not count it because blessings are uncountable and the learnings are valuable. Here are my learnings from my plants.

Plants don’t need others validation.They are fulfilling their purpose diligently. But we are always seeking others validation.Even mostly we deny to do our assigned duty. They are happy because they are content. Contenment is a great way to be happy.Plants are teaching us that focus on what you can do rather than what you were.

Consume only those what you need to survive.Plants never consume anything that not needed.They take what is necessary for living.

Enjoy every season.Yes..they never complain on any change,they accept the change.This helps plants to thrive.Plant have the ability to accept challenges.They have the quality to stand up against all odds and adapt the changes of nature and make adjustment according to every season.

Look at the bright side.Plants always turn towards the sun.Their primary goal is to grow.They there for don’t focus on their predators. Plants want to grow at any situation.

Plants grow as much as they can. They don’t set any boundaries.They are giving a lot to us without asking for anything. Food,beauty,medicines,purified air….and more and more.

I am sure you all have your own valid points to praise a tiny plant for teaching some life lesson.We all should be thankful to plants whether it is big or small..indoor or outdoor.

Stay happy and keep growing…๐Ÿ˜Š

My Story:Life With Fibromyalgia.



Every morning waking up with tremendous pain in my body..I feel like stepping back.I feel it is goining to kill me very soon. But then I ask myself is my pain more stronger than my wills?The answer is ‘no’.

I am struggling with Fibromyalgia.You can say it is the pain in my brain. But trust me it is not like that. I am making an adjustment with chornic pain.

Life has lots of challenges and these challenges make you strong. They mould you,they fold you. It is up to you how you face those challenges.

I have learned from life’s hardships that untill you give up no obstacle can defeat you.

It was difficult to handle everything with Fibromyalgia. My physical condition devastated me.But my one step towards recovery has made a big difference. I realized that Almighty has given me something very tough because he knows I have the power to handle it.He is planning something better for me.I know these pains are only in my body and my brain is strong enough to deal with such pain.

My acceptance and willpower helped me to stand up like a warrior.This is how I motivated myself..

I set small goals to achieve on time.Without being harsh I complete to my chores. I know my body needs proper movements and proper rest equally. Earlier I put effort to start my days with a smile. Now the smile comes easily despite of having a sleepless night.

I am feedind my mind with positive toughts.I have cultivate reading habit since my childhood and this habit now helps me to stay motivated for long time. You can check my earlier blog How To Build Reading Habit.

Motivation works. It is like a medicine to me. I am now able to build strong inner stength by training my mind and body.

This is my story..my real story. I know we all are in different places putting the same shoes. There is no grief for such a life in my mind because life can be more complicated without any physical complexity. It depends on us. Living a life with positivity and kindness is giving me imense power to deal with the chaos.

Thank you for reading my story.

With love

Rosida๐Ÿ˜Š

Build Your Inner Strength

We are what we make it.In a single life how we live depends on our wills,our strength. Strength has two basic faces.

Physical Strength and Mental Strength.

We are eating good food, taking suppliments,doing regluar workout to build our physical strength. Spending lots of money and time to stay fit and to stay healthy.

However for a fruitful life both are equally important.But there are lots of examples where without proper physical strength a person has reached the top of the success .They are legends. They have created history. With strong inner strength they made their life worthy.

You really have to look yourself and find your own inner strength,and say,’I’m proud of what I am and who I am’.”

Mariah Carey

Life has no restart button. Untill we take our last breath we live our life with lots of ups and downs. We face lots of challenges.We all have our own story. If someone is struggling till the end ..somone is creating history.

If we build a strong inner strength we can defeat all obstacles on our way.We can convert our ordinary trait to extraordinary power with our inner strength.It is a necessary skill to accomplish and achieve our goals.

If you are feeling lack of inner strength no need to worry ;because you can cultivate this skill very easily by adapting few good habits. Habits are nothing but something we continue to practise .

1.Know Yourself And Transform Youself.

We as a human being may have lots of disabilities . Sometime it is important to accept our disabilities . But don’t let you disability become your weakness. Mental weakness will create complexity.So know yourself. Only if you want to feel like a loser than you will love to live with your weakness. To be a winner face the world with your power. Power of conquering the battle. Remember nobody wants to talk about the loser,people talk about the winner.

2. Follow Healthy lifestyle.

Your inner strength can go down if you are having an unhealthy and irresponsible lifestyle.Follow healthy lifestyle with supportive and loving people. Develop good habits to live a healthy life. Consumption of Junk foods..alcohol produce stress and illness. So you must have a control over your habits.

3.Don’t Buy Negativity.

News papers,social media,Tv shows which are constantly selling negativity to destroy social harmony, should be avoided. Participate in healthy criticism. Be responsible towards the society.

4. Don’t live in past.

The bitter experience of your past life paralyzes your mind. So focus on your present and let go of the past. Learn from your past failures or mistakes but pdon’t let those disempowring stories control your mind.

Building inner strength is not a rocket science. You only need to train your mind and body in disciplined way. Your strength provides you the ability to accept all challenges and face the world with more power. Because inner strength is like the fuel of your mind. Don’t let the fuel finish.

Benifits of Strong Inner Strength.

1.More control over your life.

2. Build Decision making power.

3.Become courageous to handle hardship of life.

4.Able to say ‘no’ to unwanted and unnecessary.

5.Celebrate life.

“You have power over your mind-not outside events.Realize this and,you will find strength.”

Marcus Aurelius.