3 best motivational books from my collection: Must read

Reading is the most precious habit I have cultivated so far. Those who read can understand how a book can change your vibrancy. A book can help you to prosper when you feel inadequate. It becomes your companion when you feel lonely. There are many reasons to embrace the habit of reading.

The readers should thank the authors for their knowledge and their achievements along with their contribution to building our lives. Here I am listing 3 highly recommend books from my collection bag which can undoubtedly renovate your vitality.

1.The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

Written by Robin Sharma, an international best selling author, the book is about a high profile lawyer named Julian Mantle who turned into a monk, sold his mansion and Ferrari and enlightened his life with the mythology of the sages of Sivana, whom he meets in the mystical land of India, across the Himalayan range. The sages reside in an isolated village in the Himalayan where Julian arrived after his research to lead a youthful and enlightened life. With his dedication to an enlightened life, he learned the principles of life from the chief of the sages and promised to spread his knowledge to others with the same dedication. He narrated the fables of Yogi Raman, the chief of the sages to his young lawyer friend John, who is also very busy and overwhelmed in his professional life. Julian shares the seven principles of life and ten rituals of radiant living with John.

Though the story is fictitious, the message of the book is the absolute truth of enlightened life. This book is about the purpose of life, about devotion to life. The importance of selflessly serving others, living in the present, self-discipline, self-mastery, power of words, power of silence, opposite thinking, and many lessons that I learned from the book which are positively taking off benefit me in my daily life. Living your dream and achieving goals with simple living and high thinking, practicing good habits, and controlling every small act of the mind is possible for you whether you are 20 years energetic student or 50 years experienced individual. You are going to develop with the wisdom of this story. Therefore, I recommend this book.

Learning from The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari in a blink.

1.Know yourself to master your mind.

2.Build your inner strength to nurture your outer world.

3.Life become easier and rewarding when you find your purpose.

4.Spend time with nature to enhance your vitality.

5.To work harder, create positive pressure on you.

6.We get tired when I do that work which we don’t enjoy. So fatigue is nothing but a mental creation.

7.Power of isolation and silence. To attain peace of mind and to access unlimited enthusiasm these two rituals are most effective.

8.Write down your goals.This helps your subconscious mind to work on it.

9.You can change your life if you make space for it. So keep empty your cup to fill it with new ideas.

2.The Alchemist

This book is one of the most recommended motivational books written by Paulo Coelho, especially for the students. The book teaches you how to live your dream and achieve your goal, without giving up your courage. The story of the book is about a boy named Santiago who wants to travel and wants to see the lives of other people, other places and for that he chooses to be a shepherd and this adventurous Andulasian shepherd dreamt of a treasure in Egyptian Pyramids, decides to pursue his dream and travels far to the Egyptian Pyramid to find treasure. Lots of obstacles he faced but he never gave up. His rock-solid determination made the impossible possible. In his journey to the dream comes true he met many people who played a significant role in his life. The lessons he learned from every situation and personalities helped him to become closer to his dream.

Since I didn’t read this book in my college life, I found this book is highly effective for students as well as for others to know the purpose of life. This book teaches that if you are strongly determined to achieve your goal nothing can stop you to accomplish it. This book inspires you to, work hard, do not leave your dream, do not lose your hope and never be scared of failures in life.

Learning from Alchemist in a blink.

1.Listen to your heart. The Universe helps you in your journey.

2.Curiousity is good. Be enthusiastic to know new things.

3.Overcome your fear.

4.Take action to obtain your ambition.

5.Live in present.

6.Stay focus.

7.Be courageous to make your own decision.

8.Success makes you a better version of yourself. The contagion effect of your victory is visible in the area around you. It benefits your living.

9.You can experiment the new if you reject impossible.

3.The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind

This book is one of the most all-time best selling inspirational guide book written by Joseph Morphy. This worldwide accepting and admiring book can teach you how you can change your life with the power of your subconscious mind. In this book, you will find easy techniques to train your mind. Our objective mind which is called the conscious mind through which we make decisions. But the subjective mind which is called a subconscious mind is independent of the conscious mind. It functions automatically as the heart or digestive system or the blood circulation functions in our body.

This book reveals how you can change yourself and achieve your goal by changing your habitual thinking. Because your thoughts reflect you. The vast learning from this book can do a miracle in your life if you apply properly to empower your subconscious mind. How does visualization work in your favour? The mental movie technique and how it helps to achieve your goal? The unconscious learning we have practised for a long, know-how? These are some learning that you can get from this classic self-help book. This book is grounded in both science and faith, and so far millions of copies sold.

Learning from The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind in a blink.

1.Your thought of mind makes your world.

2.Your subconscious mind has healing power.

3.Peace of mind is necessary for success.

4.A good night sleep is essential for a healthy body and peaceful mind. By Suggesting your subconscious you can have it.

5.By thinking good for others you think good for yourself.

6.It depends on you what you want to be. Good or bad, evil or angel.

7.You get the answer of your prayer.

8.Focus on your success to defeat your fear.

9.Your thinking keeps you young.

Conclusion

Learning is an endless process. There can be many learning options compared to books, but if you choose to read, you can gain millions of understanding in one pointer.

Among a huge number, I have listed only three which are a phenomenon.Read these books to increase your productivity and to transform your life.

What is the best motivational book in your collection bag?

Thank you for reading.

Celebrate life:Choose to be happy

“The more you praise and celebrate your life,the more there is in life to clebrate.”      –Oprah Winfrey

People come to world with a unique message. Everyone in this world has their own identity. The identity given by parents or the identity given by society doesn’t matter.But it matters if you have something to give others,to the society to your generation.The Creator creates all with a definite purpose. But if you deny the beauty of purpose in life you only live the life. Life is not only to live. Life is to celebrate.But how? It is easy to write any philosophical idea but is it really easy to do so.May be or may not, it is up to you.You the only who can write your destiny.Your actions build your habit and your habit leads you to your destiny. So if you can control your every tiny act you can build good habits and this will lead to a desired destiny.

Every small step matters and every moment you live in your life is meaningful. Because there is only one life and a thousands of dreams, wishes and hopes.You want life in abundance.But you never even know where your satisfaction lies.This creates trouble.Life is not a straight and smooth path to walk freely.Rocks and mud, up and down, leaves and curves are ever in your way.There are obstacles lying on your path.The way you deal with the obstacles and hardships of life transform you to a new version of your own.It depends on you what do you want in your new version,a better you or a weaker you.

You know where your happiness lies.You know how you can feel happy.Choosing happiness doesn’t mean that you are not ready to deal with your emotions like grief,anger or disappointment.

You can celebrate life in many ways. But things you love to do must be known by you. That does not mean only the things you love to do can inspire you to live happily. You need to adopt positivity to make your life worthy.You can choose to do some really productive and value-added activities to celebrate the life.

1.Gardening.

I love this. Planting varities of flowers and plants in your garden is simply amazing. The tiny plants growing day by day with your care and love give you imense happiness.

2.Do something for needy people.

Practicing kindness in everyday brings more happiness to your life. Though we know kindness is great virtue but we sometimes stay out of it to manage our stressful life. A little act of kindness makes a big difference in life.Donating an amount or clothes or food to a needy person is a act of kindness.Your small act can bring smile to othres face. Imagine a child whom you are providing food or clothes or education,how peaceful and blissful for him it ts. Isn’t this way to clebrating life?

3.Play with kids.

Let your inner child come out.Play your favourite games of childhood with kids.This sounds crazy but I believe it brings happiness to your mind.

4.Help a stranger.

Another way to celebrate life is by helping a stranger. You help someone without knowing him is really a big deal.

5.Spend time with nature.

Persist and spend longer period with nature can heal your body and mind.But this seems impossible for today’s busy people. The super fast techonology dependent lives are hardly able to connect with nature.But the more you spend time with nature the more you thrive.So be sure that you are going to watch the sun rise and sun set to reduce stress and to have more zest in your life.Nature improves your vitality. So move forward to celebrate your life with nature.

Conclusion

If you choose to be happy in your life find every small opportunity to celebrate it.Because life is a gift. Despite of all the ups and downs you can find many reasons to relish and celebrate your life. The more you celebrate your life, the more life gives you reasons to celebrate it.Keep celebrating today,tomorrow and always.

What is your small act to celebrate life?

Say no to garbage in mind:Protect and clean up your mind

Keeping your mind healthy is as important as keeping the body healthy and fit.Every day we consume negativity from various sources which fills our mind with garbage. Let the garbage out.

1. Stay away from those selling negativity.

A healthy mind is important to live a healthy and sucessful life.To keep your mind healthy you need to stay away from toxic people and dirty media.Because there are only these two major resources exist to spread negativity in people and society.Some toxic mind are there to fulfill their evil intention and they attracts them who are mentally weak or you can say, they sell negativity to the buyers who do not have a strong and healthy mindset.I personally use to stay away from all dirty media which sell only negativity.There is no point wasting your time and energy on their so called breaking news. A crappy news or a worthless reading is enough to feed your mind with negativity or to squeeze your energy.Don’t you think it is better to avoid it? Because you cannot control others thought but you can control your consumption.

2.Active mind lives active life.

Although our mind never takes rest.It keeps thinking of something all the time.But it can not be called as active mind.Because an active mind always works on productive thoughts.About 60,000 thoughts come to our mind in a single day. That is unbelievable but true.There are hardly any productive ideas among this vast number of thoughts.

“Active minds that think and study,like swift brookes are seldom muddy.”Aurther Guiterman

To strengthen the mind we need to train our brain in a proper way. The brain needs nourishment.Doing certain brain exercises keeps our mind active. Some effective exercises and diet for the brain are Reading a book,listening to good music, brain games, puzzle words ,learning and teaching a new skill,meditation etc. By doing these exercises mind remains calm and sharp,build concentration and boost intelligence.An active mind depends on what are you feeding and doing to your brain.

3.Work on disturbing thoughts.

Disturbing thoughts are nothing strange in the mind. Which is common to everyone. But the amount of disturbing thoughts and kind of disturbances may related to your mental health. Know how harmful these thoughts are.Find out the source of those disturbing thoughts.If one thinks of committing self-murder every moment, it is indeed serious and dangerous to his mental health.Disturbing thoughts often focus on violence,past traumatic incidents,unusual physical desires, self destructive and many more.It has no specific category and is not the same for everyone. But physical and mental exercises must be done to deal with persistent destructive and disturbing thoughts.Get rid of the disturbing thoughts by feeding your mind positive thoughts as affirmation. Listen to yourself and find out how your mind get corrupted.If it leads to destruction seek others help or talk to your trustworthy one.Practice positive self talk.Make sure you are not filling your mind with unnecessary and worthless thoughts.Developing a hobby, positive and encouraging people, taking proper mental and physical diet and reducing the intake of aggressive mass media content helps you to take the trash out of your mind.

Conclusion

It is the quality of human being among all living breeds to identify what is wrong or what is right.Making excuses and being a blind follower of anything can fill your mind with garbage.A clutter free mind can restore more energy and can be more productive.

Don’t let your mind become garbage bin.Clean it wisely.

Thank you dear readers for reading my post.

Importance of motivation in childhood:5 effective ways to motivate a child.

Childhood is the golden period of life.At this period a child must get optimum care from parents and family .But dealing with a child’s psychology is not so easy.Childhood is the period where a child has no limit on learning .The learning capacity of a child is unpredictable.It depends on the surrounding people and environment whether it can add value to a child’s life or not.

Children need motivation too.

To build positivity in a child need motivation.But the kind of motivation is different from adult.We adult have lots of problems. Our main problem is our ego. But a child doesn’t have ego. That’s why  he immitates others unconditionally. But the biggest problem rises here.He does what he observes.If a child is guided properly it can lead to greatness. But the reverse is also true.

It depends on their parents,guardians,teachers or caregivers how they introduce the world to a child. A positive approach is always needed.ย  Because the potentiality and possibility in a child is abundant.

Some of us have a big issue with our children that they do not respect others or they are very fussy. They do not like to do their work properly.

Children may have behavioural problems in the growing stage. But sometimes adults choose the wrong way to deal with these problems. As a result they demolish them. This creates another problem.

A negatively led child may lack confidence. Whenever some are highly self-motivated and parents do not need to worry for them.All that is required of them is proper guidance to maintain their confidence.

Know the ways to motivate a child.

Today’s children are extremely energetic and fans of the fantasy world. It is a really difficult task for them to execute their vast landscape.They have an another interesting imaginary world. Where they want to fly,fight and form.They live far away from reality. It is very important for them to introduce the real world. Because in reality there is no Doraemon gadget.

1.Introduce to them the real heroes.

Let them enjoy the Fantasy world but don’t forget to introduce the real heroes to them. There are many real stories where real people created history.Encourage your child through stories of real heroes. Let them read or watch or describe those inspiring stories.

2. Listen to your child.

It is important to know what your child wants to say to you. So listen to that. Pay attention to what he said. We usually ask our children to listen to us. But we do not do this for them. As a result they stop interacting with us.They start feeling worthless. This hurts their little heart.Our attention to them uplifts their mindset.

3.Eye contact.

Make sure your child communicate well with others . For that, train them to make eye contact.This will develop his self confidence.Eye contact is a non verbal communication language which helps not only young children but the adults too to express themselves confidently. Learning this skill from an early age will be helpful for a lifetime.

4.Encourage your child instead of control.

It is good to control your child to some extent but it should not be negatively affected. You should avoid to control their emotions. Give them the space to express their emotions. Try to deal with their emotions with encouraging words. Praise them on their good works. Praise their efforts not their results.Use appropiate words to encourage them. But don’t praise them lavishly.This is also harmful.

Encourage them to learn from their failure. Do not show your sympathy or anger on their failure. Train their mind to look forward with past learnings. Let them feel the disappointment. Because a little disappoinment works positively for them. The pain of a little disappointment or failure provides an opportunity to develop life skill. Look at the opportunity not the pain.

5.Physical strength for mental strength.

It is important to your child to be physically healthy to develop mental muscles.Healthy body for healthy mind. Work on your child’s physical strength. Healthy diet,regular exercise should be followed from an early age.Minimize screen time and try to engage them in other activities like outdoor games, pretend games, creative works.

Conclusion

Children are our future.It is our prime duty to build our future strong. Prepare them for life from a young age. There are many points to add to this, but according to me the above points are definitely helpful towards boosting the mental strength of children.

Listen To Your InnerVoice: Know The Effective Ways.

This morning I was having tea with some biscuits and while eating it I was feeling it is not good for me. I was consciously warning myself.This sugary and refined biscuits are not for me. Then I stopped myself to have it more. We often hear a voice from our heart which guides us in our way. This small but still strong voice is our inner voice or we call it gut,inner wisdom,inner calling,instinct etc.

Why should we listen to our inner voice?

Our inner voice is that sense or feeling which acts as our guide for time to time.We often talk about our sixth sense.That sense which is strong and wondering.But sometime we just ignore that inner voice or you can say ‘internal dialogues’.Take a pause and think, how many times you have regret for not trusting or underestimating your inner voice?I can bet you that you will say, many times.Mostly we have a doubt on that voice.For which we can not catch that.

How can I listen to my inner voice?

It is important to catch that voice coming from deep of your soul to recognise yourself.Because it reflects your belief system. We often misunderstand our head noise from inner voice. We talk to us nonstop all day long.That is self talk. Which creates a noise in our head. It may positive but mostly it is negative.So don’t mix up your inner voice with that noise.

To make a connection with your inner voice you need to stay calm.More you stay calm your inner voice become more strong.An anxious mind and body can not connect with it. So to listen to your inner wisdom or voice learn to control your anger and anxiety.

Meditation is the best way to stay calm.Take a deep breath when you feel anxious.Visualize yourself at a calm and cool state of mind.This helps tremendously to stay calm and listen to the voice of your soul.

Not to worry. If you are worrying about your own fortune and stressing your mind at every situation then it becomes difficult to catch the voice you hear from your soul.To get rid of your worries practice opposite thinking.

We often get stuck between our brain and heart. Sometime our brain opposes our heart and we accept the decision of our brain. The lack of faith to our fate makes us to do this. This is true that we cannot depend on our fate for every situation without taking any action but we can not deny the fortune.This is actually not only about the fate but about the spirituality too.

Control over yourself. Listening to the deep calling of your inner world depends on how much control you have on yourself.It is important to be relax and peaceful towards the ongoing situation.Don’t let othe head noise becomes more powerful and dominating to you.

The pattern of your inner voice is also important to know.Look back and collect those inner callings you have had so far.Then you can see the similarities and realize that pattern of your inner voice. I can find out more often I get the advice how to avoid blunders in my past and how should I not repeat those.

Conclusion

Again you may have lots of confusion that what is my inner voice which I have to follow or listen carefully. Because your head is twisting all the thoughts along like your fear,your hope or your desire. At this dilemma talk to your confusion and simplify your thought process.Make a good conversation with your confusion like you are discussing to someone who is seeking your help.Give yourself the space to interact with you and let your inner voice stronger than earlier . The more you connect with your inner voice the more know your worth.

Hope this blog will able to add some value in your life.Feel free to share your opinion on this topic in the comment box. I will love to hear from you.

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5 food to uplift your mood

It is said that door of your mind opens through the way of your stomach. Our health mostly depends on our food habits.But is it possible to improve our mental health with food? Is there any relation between food and mood?

We usually have craving for sweets when we feel stressed or sad. Even there are people who used to take alcohol to reduce stress. Both sugary food and alcohol have negative impact into our health.But there are certain food which can improve brain health to uplift mood.

1.Fish.

Fish which are rich in omega3 fatty acid should be in your meal for your mental well being.Selmon and tuna fish are rich in omega3 fatty acid. However some plant based omega3 fatty acid rich food are there, which are Red kidney bean,Cauliflower,Broccoli,Canola oil,Chia seeds and Flexseeds etc.

Omega3 fatty acids or DHA are not produced in our body naturally. So to work on it you can add fatty fish or plant based Omega3 fatty acid in to your meal.Researches has shown that consumption of Omega3 fatty acid leads to good mental health.

2.Eggs

Egg is a complete food, rich in Protein,Vitamin D and B12. Consumption of egg is benefited to our nervous system and our brain health. Since egg is high in antioxidants,it preserves and protects the brain cells. Egg is easily available and easy to cook food.Tons of ways are there to eat eggs.You can choose your favourite one. Mine is, egg poach and hard boiled egg curry.

3.Green Leafy vegetables.

Loaded with B Vitamin floate, green leafy veggies reduces depression and also improves metabolic system. Add green leafy veggies into your daily meal and stay both mentally and physically fit. Spinach,Turnip green,Ladies finger,Lettuce,Broccoli and many more are there in the green leafy veggie’s list.

4.Yogurt.

Yogurt contains active good bacteria which are called probiotics.Probiotics are good for our intestines.Low fat plain yogurts also contains good amount of protein,calcium,Vit B6 and B12,raboflavin,potassium and magnesium.It boosts immunity, protects bones and teeth, improves digestions and also reduces the risk of cancer.As a good source of probiotics ,consumption of yogurt reduces depressions because the lactobacilus bacteria affects our mood providing direct link between health of gut microbiome and brain. (As bacteria in the gut sends and receives signal to the brain it is known as gut-brain axis).

There are varities of yogurts available in market. Those are Greek Yogurt,Australian Yogurt,Soy Yogurt,AlmondYogurt,Goat milk Yogurt etc.

5.Fruits.

We know fresh fruits and vaggies are good for health. There is nothing new about it. But for good mood or mental well being certain fruits have really magnificent role.Know some of these miracle fruits.

1.Banana

2.Avocado

3.Watermelon

4.Berries

5.Apple

Fresh fruits contais minerals,fiber,vitamins and micronutrients. Consumption of fresh fruit keeps our body hydrated for long time and lowers the risk of depressions.

Conclusion

Above five foods are only a small part of the list of mood boosting food. There are many more names in the list. We all are blessed with lots of healthy food from Nature which keeps our body and mind healthy and energetic

To embrace a healthy lifestyle with fully energetic mood we need to add some healthy food into our diet.To feel good, food plays a significant role.

However it is true that our mood can be influence by many factors like sterss,financial imbalance,unhealthy relationship,poor health condition,unpleasant environment etc.But the role of healthy food in case of mental well being is vital.Researchers still working on the link between nutrients and mood but it also true that the relation between nutrients and mental health is emerging.

“Tell me what you eat,I will tell you who you are” -Brillat-Savarin.

Goobye Legend…


Today Assam is mourning on the death of ex-chief minister Shri Tarun Gogoi at age of 86. He served as the Chief Minister of Assam for 15 consecutive years(2001-2016). Shri Tarun Gogoi was one of most successful political leader of India. He was a prestigious member of Indian National Congress.

He was in critical condition for last few weeks due to post COVID-19 complication and multiple organ failure.

It is hard to say final goodbye to such a legend. He was people’s leader. His smiling face,his simplicity will always going to be missed. People of Assam will remember him as their most favourite CM.

To bring a new dawn to Assam,your contribution to establishing a prosperous Assam will always be remembered.๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

Rest In Peace Sir.


	

How To Deal With A Bad Day..

Every day when we wake up..we open our eyes we thank Almighty for an another day.A day with a new hope ..a day with a new prospective. But those gloomy days when you just want to be alone or want to hide yourself from everyone,are really tough to deal with.

To end your bad day with a good note need little effort from you.Here are some ways to deal with a real bad day.

1.Uplift yourself with a smile.

I know there is no switch to off the negativity at a moment. But there is a beautiful thing to welcome positivity.That is your smile. The curve in your face is the most beautiful thing you can wear. You don’t need to pay a penny to wear this most expensive attiare. The magic of a smile can uplift your mind anywhere you need.So wear a smile to do magic.

2.Change your mind with opposite thinking.

Opposite thinking,is a constructive way to get rid of worries.This simple technique can do magic in your life.This is nothing but a simple exercise to create a positive mindset.

As soon as you feel sad,take a deep breathe and find out the cause of your sadness.If you really want to change your mood just do the opposite of it. Do those things,what you do in a  happy mood.For first few attempt you may feel awkward but everything depends on our desire. Desire, to change the mindset;desire, to feel good.That morning when nasty feelings occupy your mind, say repeatedly to yourself , “It is a beautiful day”.Thus you start to feel good with thinking opposite what you feel. Because your brain starts to feel the day really beautiful.

3.Take a Good meal.

A good meal can make you feel good.For that choose your favourite one.Give a treat to you with a happy meal.I remember,in my childhood my father used to bring my favourite sweets when I fall in sick. That ‘meal therapy'(according to me it’s a therapy) was really magical.Now I also apply this ‘therapy’.

3.Rearrange your room.

This is a fantastic idea to get rid of negative feelings.When you pay attention to rearrange your room or home your mind starts to feel good.Decorating furnitures or room is an art.Do something creative to get out of a crummy day.

5.Nothing is permanent.

No matter how happy you are in your life but there is always a bad day in your way which you really don’t want to bear.But the truth is that there is nothing permanent,even your bad day.So think positive.

6.Write down your feelings.

Well,there is nothing serious but writing your feelings in your diary or anywhere will let your mind feel free from the discomfort.Sometime when I really feel stressful and fusrated I write all my feelings in a page and then I burn it. With this technique I feel relaxed from those negative thoughts.

Conclusion

Remember everything happens for a cause and there is always a scope to learn from every situation.Your bad day comes to teach you some lessons and makes you stronger than earlier. So don’t blame on it.Face your bad day with a never give up attitude and follow the above ways which are extremly helpful for me and hope will help you too.I will be glad to hear from you how you face your bad days.

You can become blind by seeing each day as a similar one.Each day is a different one;each day brings a miracle of its own.It’s just a matter of paying attention to this miracle.”

-Paulo Coelho.

Arohi’s Birthday..

Yesterday, 15th November was my little munchkin’s 5th birthday. It was a beautiful day, well spent with her favourite people.

Arohi..our birthday girl๐Ÿ˜˜

Arohi was so excited to celebrate her birthday and on her demand, her youngest Aunt(my youngest sister) made an Elsa cake for her.It was really a delicious and lovely cake.

Birthaday Cake.. on her demand๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

There was a small family dinner with my two sisters and my nephew. We go out for dinner and spend some quality time altogether. Here I am sharing some moments with you all.

Happy faces๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜
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Happy parents๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Love you all…๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

How to Stop Seeking Validation From Others:Effective Ways.

If you live for people’s acceptance you will die for their rejection.”

Do you remember when you were a kid, what you seek on an accomplishment of your little act?As a kid I used to seek my parents and teachers validation.And there was nothing bad.It was absolutely normal that you ask others feedback or acknowledgement as a kid.Receiving others approval or a reward makes us feel good, though the feeling is temporary.

But if you see the other side of the coin you will easly realize that how we become habitual to others opinions or feedback right from our childhood. Thus we learn to depend on others for our own matters.This makes us to depend on others approval.

You may seek valdation from others on your work,achievement ,ideas or choices. You may have countless reasons in support of others validation.But seeking for others validation is an immature act if you don’t have self-worth.

“Your self-worth does not belong in the hand of other people.”Ashley Hetherington

We love to receive rewards,we feel happy if someone praises us andwe also want to be recognised by others.These come to us spontaneously.This is how we handover our happiness to others hand.

Here I am sharing some action steps, to reduce seeking others validation at every situation.

Know your value.

Seeking others validation is okey if you have self-validation. If you know how worthy you are then your happiness or feelings will not totally depend on others recognition or opinion.

Boost your confidence.

Lack of self-confidence is one prime reason for seeking others validation.So be confident enough that your happiness will not depend on others opinion.You must have the guts to take risk. Here I am not saying about any dangerous stunt. But to start with something new or different you must have the confidence on you. Otherwise you will keep thinking what other people will say about you or your startup.

Different people different opinion.

Do you think that people whom you are caring so much are same?Are they have same mentality? It is impossible. They are different and their likes,dislikes or opinions are also different.Since you are constantly seeking others validation your progress is stuck in defferent types of opinions of different types of people.So know what are you losing.

Reduce Social Anxiety

We live in a society and we have some assigned responsibility towards our society.To continue with social harmony we must follow some rules and regulations. But it is not that you have to think every time how the society is going to judge you. Fear of social negative judgement leads to social anxiety.So don’t let others judgement control your feelings.Do what you like, in a healthy way and with no guilt.Without harming social harmony and diversity learn to attain your well deserving life.People who are going to judge you,they are also judged by others.

Conclusion

You are the only person who better know about your needs and desire.Stop worrying about others opinion on you.Don’t let others to control you.Your happiness should be in your hand, not others hand. Subsequently by stoping to seek others validation you will able receive it spontaneously. You will also able to attract others.They themselves will come to acknowledge you.

                     So..

I donโ€™t care what you think about me. I donโ€™t think about you at all.โ€ โ€“ Coco Chanel

But I really want to know what do you think about it.

Thank your for reading๐Ÿ˜Š