“If you live for people’s acceptance you will die for their rejection.”
Do you remember when you were a kid, what you seek on an accomplishment of your little act?As a kid I used to seek my parents and teachers validation.And there was nothing bad.It was absolutely normal that you ask others feedback or acknowledgement as a kid.Receiving others approval or a reward makes us feel good, though the feeling is temporary.
But if you see the other side of the coin you will easly realize that how we become habitual to others opinions or feedback right from our childhood. Thus we learn to depend on others for our own matters.This makes us to depend on others approval.
You may seek valdation from others on your work,achievement ,ideas or choices. You may have countless reasons in support of others validation.But seeking for others validation is an immature act if you don’t have self-worth.
“Your self-worth does not belong in the hand of other people.” –Ashley Hetherington
We love to receive rewards,we feel happy if someone praises us andwe also want to be recognised by others.These come to us spontaneously.This is how we handover our happiness to others hand.
Here I am sharing some action steps, to reduce seeking others validation at every situation.
Know your value.
Seeking others validation is okey if you have self-validation. If you know how worthy you are then your happiness or feelings will not totally depend on others recognition or opinion.
Boost your confidence.
Lack of self-confidence is one prime reason for seeking others validation.So be confident enough that your happiness will not depend on others opinion.You must have the guts to take risk. Here I am not saying about any dangerous stunt. But to start with something new or different you must have the confidence on you. Otherwise you will keep thinking what other people will say about you or your startup.
Different people different opinion.
Do you think that people whom you are caring so much are same?Are they have same mentality? It is impossible. They are different and their likes,dislikes or opinions are also different.Since you are constantly seeking others validation your progress is stuck in defferent types of opinions of different types of people.So know what are you losing.
Reduce Social Anxiety
We live in a society and we have some assigned responsibility towards our society.To continue with social harmony we must follow some rules and regulations. But it is not that you have to think every time how the society is going to judge you. Fear of social negative judgement leads to social anxiety.So don’t let others judgement control your feelings.Do what you like, in a healthy way and with no guilt.Without harming social harmony and diversity learn to attain your well deserving life.People who are going to judge you,they are also judged by others.
You are the only person who better know about your needs and desire.Stop worrying about others opinion on you.Don’t let others to control you.Your happiness should be in your hand, not others hand. Subsequently by stoping to seek others validation you will able receive it spontaneously. You will also able to attract others.They themselves will come to acknowledge you.
“I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all.” – Coco Chanel
But I really want to know what do you think about it.
Thank your for reading😊